Support? How do you best show it?

How do you show a dear friend that you care and that you are there for him/her through a tough time? When you are near her, you can always just give a pat on the shoulder, a pression of the hand or a hug. It is usually enough to convey the message. Now when you are miles apart, what is the best way? With the distance, it is shown through words. So when are words too much? When do the words suffocate the person rather than support her? Can you just assume that the person knows that she can turn to you? Should you feel excluded if she doesn't?

Is it being insecure to probe the situation or is it just to establish that the rough time doesn't have its source in your relationship and hence to free your own mind to be fully available to support the person?

I guess you also need to realise that there are some things that a person needs to go through alone, you cannot always help someone or spare her the hard times. Now when you, by nature, are like a Saint-Bernard, always wanting to rescue people, and on top of this, care passionately for the person, then it is really hard. But we are constantly learning and growing, aren't we?

Comments

madilou said…
As you say, life is made such a way that when accepting, it makes us always learn and grow up.
Some of us might also be deaf or blind and would misunderstand that the only thing you wish to bring them through a saint bernard behaviour is support, help and understanding which basically can be summed up in one word: LOVE.
Someone in peace with him or herself will be able to welcome your offer. Keep on spreading your loving vibration, there is a real lack of that pure and honest feeling in this damn world!!!

Take care, XXX
Clo
Anonymous said…
Good words.

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